True friends in leadership

Most people will certainly welcome praise and new found sycophancy with total disrespect to the question, why this new found love now?

Popularity changes with times and we sometimes find ourselves highly favored by people who a while back did not give hoot of who we were. It is these times that we should be very wary of those who are singing our praise songs and we should try to look beyond the praise.When in power or a position of authority and more so financial authority you have to have trio-spherical brain as opposed to the two hemispheres that humans possess. The third part of your brain is to be the discernment part that always asks these kinds of questions. 

Good friends are hard to come by and the good type are friends that will not always agree with you on everything but will give you a shepherd’s tag the moment they are convinced that you are not towing the right line.  Friends that tell it as it is should be the more closer to you for they are the ones that assist you in keeping your G-force otherwise you find yourself being massaged and cajoled so that you can ‘leak some’.

Politicians are the worst of culprits who fall for this form of flattery and are blinded by it. This new kind of support tickles their egos and reinstates their make belief pedestal position that is not only detrimental to them but also to those around them. It would be unwise for anyone to surround themselves with only those people who sing your songs and see things your way for more often than not, these are the lot that are allergic to critical thinking but are so conniving with their words that they would lead you to believe that they have assessed the situation at hand and have come to the same conclusion as you have.

A good leader should be wise enough to see through men who also agree with you not because they cannot think for themselves but those who do so for the sake of peace.  Dealing with such minds calls for a lot of wisdom for you have to create a relationship of trust and openness with them regardless of their social ranking. If on the contrary you do not and the relationship that you have with them is ‘I'm the boss’ and you are the ‘servant’ then be ready to get a lot of agreement from them even when they know you are headed to the pit. They will not state their state of mind for fear of victimization, ridicule or for the outright fear of creating contention.

Sometimes your loudest critics are your best allies for they straighten you up and give you a perspective that you were not privy to. You should listen to critics not with an intent of shutting them and out of anger but with much wisdom, drawing only what is helpful and disregarding the rest as the right to opinion.

Being subtle is a defense that a good leader should possess as it makes manipulators unaware of your line of thought and makes one unpredictable. There are evil minds out there and all they do is scheme on how best to benefit from occurrences and from decisions you  make. Some actually wish that you do not succeed and their words are quite different from what is in their hearts. Their words are laced with sweet aromas and they carry definitive action plans that seem doable and befitting the moment but in actuality they are aware of all constraints and are setting you up for failure. 

It is in the spirit of discernment that one can find true leadership and it helps one not just to become a mover but an avatar of change.